Posted by: L | January 29, 2016

Reunions and revisiting

It has been a while since I last wrote on the blog, over a year actually. When I wrote about some family history that I had discovered back in November 2014, it was part of the process of digging deeper about how I got to where I am now, to understand better, and to put some things to rest.

2015 wasn’t an easy year on the whole, family illness, my favourite aunt passing away, friends ill and passing away, taking a hard look at myself, coming out of depression. By years’ end, I started to feel cautiously optimistic that things will be better.

When I found out more information about my family history, it opened up a lot of avenues to explore. With a lot of further research and reading I finally felt that I was getting somewhere in my search for underlying elements that had affected my family and me. It has been such a relief. I will go into more detail about this in another post.

A part of this was a positive experience that I had during the summer – going to my 50th high school reunion. I have had mixed feelings all my life about the place where I grew up, a small coastal town in southern BC. I had always wanted to escape from it when I was young, which I did. I came to realize though, that it wasn’t the place I had wanted to escape from but from the life that I had there growing up. There were good parts, but in finally looking back with a new perspective, there were quite a few not so good parts. I also came to understand and acknowledge the root of these things so that I can finally let them go after all this time.

I decided I would go, to put some things to rest. I figured that if it was awful, I could always just leave. Instead, I had a lovely time, reconnected with the people I had known all those decades ago, was so pleased to see what they had done, all of us really. I had a good wander around over the few days there, and found that all but one of the places I had lived was gone, rebuilt, as were all of the schools, but for one. I walked all over, walked and drove my old routes to school, and put it into a good place of remembrance. One of my school mates I met reminded me that back in grade 9, we had shared the proficiency award. I had totally forgotten that. Someone found the photo that was taken to put into the local paper. Here it is, pretty blurry as it is from a scan of a 45 year old newspaper, but good to have nonetheless. Unfortunately, she wasn’t in the photo.

July 19 1962, me WR Sun photo

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My Dad, my brother and I, at the house on Zero Ave, 1953.

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The house on Zero Ave. July 2015. Apparently it is to be sold, so that will be the last of the houses I lived in gone.

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The only school left that I attended, this one for grade one. It is a heritage site. The other elementary, junior high and high schools I attended are no more.

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One of the walks to school that I took in grades 2 and 3. Lots of hills!

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My Dad and Grandpa in front of the house on Washington Ave, 1944.

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The white balcony house, rather tatty looking, sits on the site of my grandparents’ house now.

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Me dressed to go to grade 12 grad. This house is also gone now, just a pile of dirt when I went by.

I also found this in the local paper archives our class photos after seeing it at the reunion:

June 10 1965 WR Sun grad photos

Reading the article, I found out I had received the PTA Bursary, one of the 25 Service Crests, and one of the three A Student crests. I really managed to bury my accomplishments.

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Drama club, many of whom came to the reunion. We had a good time looking at the old programs and reminiscing about our drama teacher, Miss Watts, who is still living in England.

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Me 50 years later. I got to have a ride in this lovely red motorbike with side car, that belongs to one of my high school friends. Such fun, but I don’t know that I could go on an extended tour!

I thank all those who worked so hard to put on our reunion. They did a wonderful job finding all of us scattered here and there, finding photos and mementoes, organizing great food and music, putting together the memorial, including the piper’s accompaniment, to those no longer with us, and allowing us to visit with each other once again. Good memories made.

 

 

Posted by: L | January 10, 2016

A new site for textile artists – Textillia

To start the new year, I’d like to write about a new textile arts site called Textillia.

To quote the ‘About’ page,

‘Textillia is an online database and community for all manner of sewing and fabric enthusiasts! We welcome quilters, garment, accessory, and home decor sewists, and textile artists such as embroiderers, dyers, and people who print fabric.’ I recommend that you go to the ‘About’ page as it has a great description of the site and its aims.

I must admit to having a connection to the creators of the site, Ariane and Bruno, my daughter and son-in-law. These two very creative people have taken their multiplicity of talents to develop a great site for anyone who has anything to do with textiles.

To access the site, it is necessary to register, which is free at the moment. Take a look at all the projects people are posting, as well as patterns and fabrics. There are also a large number of forums (or fora for the grammatically precise) covering topics like quilting, patterns, projects, fabrics, workshops, locating things, problem solving etc. And there is also a blog. So lots to see, work with and participate in.

I used to sew a lot, starting when I was in junior high, in the dim mists of time. Then we learned basic sewing in home ec. I remember we made our apron (bibbed, pleated, ties), a box pleated skirt, and a top. I actually first learned to sew on an old Singer treadle machine when I was about 6, ‘making clothes’ for my dolls. I wish I had that machine still. It was much like this one.

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By the time home ec came along we had a basic electric machine. Although I didn’t continue with home ec, it started me on many years of sewing, because it was an inexpensive way to get clothes for me. I went on to make all kinds of things over the years, including clothes for my daughter.

Which brings me back to Textillia. I don’t have a lot of what I made any more, but I did keep a few of the things I made for my daughter, and it has been fun to revisit them and put them up on the ‘Projects’ page. Other people looking at them actually helped me to find a company I had used 30 years ago, from England, for clothing kits. And it is still in business!

Also, back in 1992 I had taken a hand quilting class, and got 12 squares made. Then put it away. I got it back out again last month, and decided that I need to finish it. So after quite a few years having left sewing behind, and actually getting rid of most of my ‘stash’ – sewists will know what I mean – and most of my patterns, I just ordered some patterns and am working on the quilt. All thanks to Textillia!

So get inspired and join the new online sewing community. See you there!

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Posted by: L | November 11, 2014

Remembrance, Legacies, Reflections

2014 marks a couple of historical milestones: first, the beginning of the First World War; second, 70 years since my parents married, and my Dad was in France during the Second World War. I also had two uncles who participated in WWII, both in the Air Force. My mother’s brother was killed, aged 22, in 1942 in a training crash. My Dad’s brother made it through, earning the Distinguished Flying Cross. So when November 11 comes around each year, I always find myself thinking about them. However, I never knew very much about what actually happened during my Dad and my Grandfather’s involvement.

My paternal grandfather, who had emigrated to Canada in 1910, signed up and fought as a Canadian soldier. I recently went back through old family papers, and found that he served with the Canadian Expeditionary Force, signing up in 1916, and serving with the 102 Battalion Comox Atlin. That bit of information lead me, because of old records being made accessible on the net, to find out something about what he may have done. He started as a Private, and ended his service in 1919 as a Sergeant and served in France and Belgium. From the ‘Canadian Expeditionary Force Study Group’ page:

“The 102nd Canadian Infantry Battalion was organized in November 1915 under the command of Lieutenant-Colonel J. W. Warden under authorization published in General Order 151 of 22 December 1915. The battalion was mobilized in Comox and recruited in northern British Columbia.

The battalion embarked at Halifax 20 June 1916 aboard EMPRESS OF BRITAIN, disembarking in England on 28 June 1916. Its strength was 37 officers and 968 other ranks. The battalion arrived in France on 11 August 1916, becoming part of the 4th Canadian Division, 11th Canadian Infantry Brigade. It was later reinforced by the 16th Canadian Reserve Battalion. The battalion returned to England on 4 May 1919, disembarked in Canada on 6 June 1919, was demobilized on 14 June 1919, and was disbanded by General Order 149 of 15 September 1920.”

This battalion fought in France and Flanders: SOMME, 1916″, “Ancre Heights”, “Ancre, 1916”, “ARRAS, 1917, 18”, “VIMY, 1917”, “Hill 70”, “YPRES, 1917”, “PASSCHENDAELE”, “AMIENS”, “Scrape, 1918”, “Drocourt-Quéant”, “HINDENBURG LINE”, “CANAL du NORD”, “VALENCIENNES”, “France and Flanders, 1916-18”.

I also found a fascinating account of the 102 Battalion, written in 1919, right after the war, by L. McLeod Gould, called ‘From B.C. to Baisieux; being the narrative history of the 102nd Canadian Infantry Battalion’. I have read parts of it, and it is very direct. How the men survived is amazing. When they began to train in Comox, they had no rifles, so all they did was march. They only received arms training, for a few weeks, once in England. There is a second site about the battalion’s history which also refers to Gould’s book, plus photos and one soldier’s diary.

Knowing from history about these battles, I am amazed that my Grandfather survived. I don’t know any specific details, but with the information I now have, I might be able to find out more with further research. My Grandfather married my Grandmother in 1917 in England, and my Dad was born the following year. They came back to Canada after the end of the war. He was a founding, and lifelong member of the Great War Veterans’ Association which later joined with the Royal Canadian Legion.

 

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As for my Dad, I really knew nothing at all, until just a few weeks ago. I just knew he was in a tank, in France, and was wounded. Period. He never talked about any of the experiences of actual fighting. He would tell the occasional story about meeting aunts and cousins and his brother, who was in the Air Force. Recently, in talking to my brother about family things, he told me that he did once talk to our Dad about his experiences. Our Dad died over 30 years ago, of cancer, just after his 62nd birthday. I often wondered if it was as a result of his war experience because he was in tanks, which were lined with asbestos. Anyway, my brother told me what battalion he was in, and a little about what Dad told him. I hope to find out more in the future, but from what I learned, and what I have been able to find out, again online in the past few weeks, well, it gave me some sleepless nights and a few tears, and also some resolution to many questions I had.

I didn’t know that he had first tried to enlist in the navy, but was refused because of his poor eyesight. Which was interesting because he was accepted January 1942 in Vancouver into the Infantry. He was assigned to the 4th Canadian Armoured Division and headed off to Borden in Ontario to undergo training as a communications person in the tank division. Again, how underprepared these men were. In January 1942 when this division was set up, from a report called the Flames of War, was the following information:

“The immediate problem was that not a single member of the division knew anything about tanks, nor did they even possess a tank. The only place that had tanks was the Canadian Armoured Fighting Vehicle Centre at CFB Borden. A group of division personnel were sent to Borden to train as instructors in February so that they could begin to train the rest of the division.”

The commander in Borden happened to find out that there were 165 tanks sitting on the docks in Halifax waiting to be shipped to England. He managed to get permission for a few of them to be sent back to Ontario. This is how they ended up training:

“No regiment had more than fifteen tanks, so each squadron took turns operating an actual tank while the remainder did dismounted drills with wooden H’s made of 2” x 2” lumber.” Incredible!

From what I can figure so far, he went to England in March 1944, shortly after he and Mum were married. They took the train to Winnipeg as their honeymoon, and he kept going East. She came back to New Westminster.

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There are several sites that have reports on where his division fought, most notable, right after D-Day, as part of the push to liberate Belgium and France: Flames of War; The Falaise Gap (Canada at War);  The Canadian Army 1939-1945; The Falaise Pocket. So interesting to see that both he and his father fought in the same areas – France and Belgium.

On History Channel, for the past two nights, and continuing tomorrow, has been short programs called War Stories and they have covered this exact period. It has been both awful and enlightening to see the film footage and to hear the quiet stories of the men, from both sides of the war. Horrific doesn’t begin to cover it. From what my brother told me, Dad was in the tanks that participated in this. He told of having to drive over bodies on the road, of seeing the tank next to him blown up, with his childhood friend in it. At one point, their division, along with a Polish division, were caught near the German tank division. Apparently, of the 28 tanks, only about 5 made it out, his being one. Sometime later, I don’t know when or where, his tank was hit. The two men in the lower part of the tank were killed instantly. Dad was sitting higher (that’s him on the right, partway out of the hatch); the sole of his boot was blown off. He and the fourth man, who sat at the top of the turret, escaped before the tank burned up. As they were running for a ditch, Dad was shot in the leg, and the other man dragged him for quite a long way until they were safe. I don’t know any more, other than he eventually was back in England, and what he did until he came back home, is unknown at this point. Watching the film, there were several shots of tanks and I wonder if one of them was his. In the sky, the Air Force was bombing massively. Was that his brother up above him? Quite likely.

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When I look at the photo of the two brothers before they went overseas, they looked so relaxed and easy. Coming home later, I know my Dad was affected, and now I have a bit of a better idea why and how. How could anyone even stand that mentally? I don’t think they could, and they returned with something fundamental broken.

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For my Mum, her only brother, the youngest in the family, signed on to be a pilot. I have a few letters he wrote to her from Regina, Calgary and Comox. He died when his plane crashed in Patricia Bay, Victoria. They were close, in age, and as brother and sister. His death ended their line of the family, which had been traced back to 1662. Their family was deeply affected.

My Uncle, who was killed.

My Uncle, who was killed.

There has been a lot about the military in the news in the last while, maybe because of the various anniversaries around the two world wars, about the continuing unrest in various parts of the world, about PTSD (a term which only came into official use in the 1980s), about available help or lack thereof, for military personnel who are injured, in body and/or in mind. For these soldiers, they were expected to buck up, shut up, go home, and get on with life, which they did to greater and lesser degrees. This latter issue has been on my mind for a while.

Recently on the CBC radio program The Sunday Edition, there was a feature on PTSD. The interesting thing was the response letters that were sent, most from children of WW II veterans. All I can say is ‘yes’, that’s how it was. There are good memories, and there are not so good ones. Grandparents, parents, brothers and sisters, aunts and uncles, cousins, children, all affected.

Little by little, more is being written about our generation and the effect of WW II on our families. One that resonated was from the Huffington Post. It is helpful to finally find such information. Maybe someday the chain of the effects of war on families will be broken, so that our families are not. In a peaceful and safe country like ours, Canada, we still see the effects of war 100 years later, on the ordinary people who left their homes, travelled a long way, and experienced the unimaginable. If fighting stopped today in other parts of the world, it would be another 100 years before the effects on those ordinary people would begin to diminish.

I loved my Dad, my Grandfather, and my Uncles, ordinary men, three of whom somehow survived the far from ordinary. So on this Remembrance Day, marking 100 years of the start of WW I, and 70 years after my Dad’s participation in WW II, I remember and reflect, and think about the legacies.

Posted by: L | September 28, 2014

Wooster Farm 2014

This past September, I had the privilege to spend a week at Wooster Farm, at the former summer home of American Impressionist Frank Weston Benson. I came across both the place and the workshop by pure luck last winter. I saw a report in the weekly email from Plein Air magazine, about a workshop that had been held at this site last September. What caught my eye was the name of the farm. Wooster is a family name, and the east coast, particularly Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Maine, and New Brunswick are the areas where the family established itself, beginning in the early 1600s. I had not heard of this particular place, so I was intrigued to find out more about it.

Also, I have been interested in learning more about plein air painting, something I had not done much of. I have tried on and off over time, but was never much satisfied with what I did, and so had been keeping an eye out for a workshop. You can read more about the actual workshop over on my art blog, Redberry Art. When I saw the article, I immediately searched out Tom Dunlay, the Boston painter who conducted the workshop, to say I was interested in taking one if he did another at a future date. Fortunately, he decided to do another one this year, so I signed up and started planning. Tom sent me a link to an article that was written about the first workshop in 2013 entitled ‘Following the Light’. That really made me determined to go, both for the place and the workshop.

Wooster Farm is on the island of North Haven, off Rockland, Maine. The farm and Wooster Cove show up on old maps. If you scroll down there are several. The property has water on both sides, Wooster Cove to the south and the strait between North Haven and Vinalhaven Islands to the east. To get there, I ended up flying to New Brunswick, driving to Rockland, and taking the ferry to North Haven. We had a beautiful week of sunny weather, with only a couple of cloudy or rainy afternoons. I did some digging in the family history and on line and found out some interesting things.

The original farm was owned by David Wooster, who, according to the family tree, was the brother of Oliver Wooster, the branch from which our family came. So a very long ago, many-great uncle. There is an on-line copy of a book about farms on North Haven; on pgs 2, 49, 121, and 133 there are references to various Woosters who lived on the island and to the original farm. The reference to Levi Wooster, who raised a barn in 1827 is intriguing. Was this the barn at the farm that Frank Benson turned into his studio? Based on the age of the structure, I wouldn’t be at all surprised. There was music at the barn raising and a song sung:

Fiddle and rum, fiddle and rum,

Mr Wooster and Mrs Wooster

and all hands come.

Wooster Farm, Wooster Cove in background

Wooster Farm, North Haven Island

The hill, where Benson painted many of his famous paintings is directly behind the house (you can see the slope going up). Also, the curved white bench on the front porch of the house is the original bench which appears in several paintings.

 

Barn, at the corner of Wooster Farm and Benson Roads

The Barn which became Benson’s studio, at the corner of Wooster Farm and Benson Roads

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I have a collection of photos of the the farm and cove on my photo site, so you can see more details of the buildings and property. There is also Tom Dunlay’s Facebook page from Wooster Farm Workshop 2014 where photos are being posted.

The other interesting thing, when I looked at the family tree my grandfather wrote out by hand, there were several instances of Wooster/Benson marriages, albeit in New Brunswick. So I wonder if there were both Woosters and Bensons who left this area as United Empire Loyalists, who were related to the Woosters and Bensons that ended up on North Haven. In a quirk of history, that is exactly what happened at the workshop. Ellen, who was my roommate at the farm, during the workshop, is the great-great granddaughter of Frank Benson. So the names came together again.

Benson and Wooster descendants

Benson and Wooster descendants

 

The best thing is that the property is being preserved by its current owners. They also have some of Frank Benson’s personal property which can be found in the house and the barn. One of his easels and a palette is there, plus household items. Photos of the Benson family have been enlarged and are placed around the walls of the barn/studio. Also, when Benson painted, he cleaned his brushes and palettes and scraped the paint onto the walls of the studio. So several places around the walls have these great blobs of paint.

Paint scrapings, palette and photo of Frank Benson

Paint scrapings, palette and photo of Frank Benson

Here are a couple more items I found about the place that talk about its history and legacy:

Dreamy Days at Wooster Farm

A Rainy Day: Frank Benson’s Maine Interiors

People who have stayed on North Haven

Artist Frank Benson; Seasons in the Sun

A Ray of Sunlight – this one has a lot of Benson’s paintings, particularly of his family on the hill near the house, where we went and painted as well.

 

Posted by: L | August 4, 2014

Always something new to learn

I have come to realize that, although I had thought of myself as a reasonably educated person, there are areas where I am really lacking in knowledge and understanding. Sure, I have a general overview like I imagine most people do, from reading this and that, some articles, watching some programs. For a variety of reasons, the shallowness of my knowledge has become very apparent, and has led me to wonder, if I had had some level of education in these areas, might I have made better decisions and choices over the course of my life. Of course, hindsight is always 20-20, but one can’t help but wonder.

The areas that I want to learn more about now are philosophy, psychology, mindfulness, and something about Buddhism too. My educational background was all in the sciences, and back in the day, there was little space to take electives as every class had a lab. I managed a couple of arts appreciation classes, and that’s about it. I think that missing out on more of the liberal arts ended up being a real deficit.

So I am in the process of trying to remedy this, hoping that it is never to late to learn. To that end, I began this summer to start on a self-education venture. Here are a few of the things I have found so far.

Not too long ago, I came across a site, based in the UK, called The Philosophers’ Mail. It has a great many essays on all kinds of subjects, and I really enjoy the well-written and direct take on these various topics. Many that I have read so far are quite thought provoking and give a different perspective on the usual approach one sees.

A couple of my current favourites:

Why you are (probably) not a good communicator – a real favourite, as it hits very close to the target.

“Good communication means the capacity to give another person an accurate picture of what is happening in your emotional and psychological life – and in particular, the capacity to describe its very darkest, trickiest and most awkward sides in such a way that others can understand, and even sympathise with them.” “But most of us are, of course, appalling communicators – and that is because there is so much inside of us that we can’t face up to, feel ashamed of or can’t quite understand – and we are therefore in no position to present our depths sanely to an observer, whose affections we want to maintain.”

That about nails it.

The Philosophers’ guide to gratitude – gets to the concept of gratitude in a way that makes sense to me, thinking more deeply about what the expression of gratitude.

“It is equally important to know that the advocates of gratitude aren’t merely being naïve when they tell us to stop and appreciate flowers or a pretty sky; they know about suffering and darkness and are speaking up only because they have been to hell and back and concluded that in the end, what makes the journey worth it are a few outwardly humble but deeply significant things.”

Wisdom – something I am often short of. Here, wisdom is shown to be made up of several elements, and I know there a several of these where I need to do some study and work: realism, gratitude, folly, politeness, self-acceptance, forgiveness, resilience, envy, regrets, and calm.

Why you should clean up, not empty your mind – western, or Philosophical Meditation vs eastern meditation. I didn’t know there was a difference. Something else to explore. There is a link in this piece to a guide to Philosophical Meditation, and at the end of that piece, a free pdf. (I keep typing medication, interesting Freudian slip).

There are lots more interesting topics on this site to peruse.

As far as the Buddhism goes, I have so far read one of Pema Chodron’s books, ‘Start Where You Are’. She has a pretty clear way of writing, so I can sort of understand, but I think I will have to reread it again to get a better understanding of all the words and terms and their meaning and implications. It is certainly interesting. I have started on another of her more recent books, ‘When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times.’ It is in the same vein, but more about being kind to oneself when you have made many mistakes so that one can become empathetic and compassionate towards others.

I am trying some mindfulness meditation, just beginning this process, and will see how it goes. I’ll have to try the philosophical version too and see if there are pros and cons, or maybe they will both be useful. Even though I am a real newbie at this, it is noticeably helping when my mind starts to spin down into the negative drain.

One of the things that has struck me, very recently, from the various readings, the above as well as others, is the place of fear in one’s life and how recognizing it, understanding it, and then finding ways to come to terms with it, is very important. I can say with a great deal of certainty that I have not recognized the role of fear in my life. Therefore, I haven’t recognized it in others either. How often do we say “I’m afraid I can’t go out tomorrow” or some such? It is such a superficial,  easily, and commonly used phrase. Maybe this offhand way glosses over what might be the real fear underlying all kinds of actions and behaviours, both my own and others. It is something that bears further examination, for me at least. This is not fear of spiders or heights, but the fear that we might be judged, or dismissed, or discarded among other negative reactions. If I can understand it better for myself, I hope that I can become more empathetic towards others, in recognizing that they also have fears that come out as actions and behaviours that overlay what is really going on underneath.

There is all kind of material about dealing with one’s fears in the various literatures, so it now becomes a matter of getting to work and reading it first, then deciding how to deal with it all. I wish I had known about some of this many years ago. It would have been a different journey.

 

 

 

Posted by: L | June 11, 2014

Art Trek 2014

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Art Trek, now in its third year is featuring nine artist studios and collectives, and will take place June 13th and 14th!

Date and HoursFriday, June 13, 5 p.m. – 10 p.m. and Saturday, June 14, 10 a.m. – 5 p.m. (Map below)

You are invited to visit The Studio on 20th, a light-filled working and exhibition space for ten Saskatoon painters. Stall Gallery Basement Studio C is the working studio of the co-owners of the Stall Gallery on 20th Street and two doors away, the MIX Artists’ Collective has found a temporary exhibition space at Green Ark Collected Home on 20th. The 330 Design Group is a collective of sculptors located up the street in a delightful grotto of a former church basement. A short distance away in the Exhibition area, Atelier 2302 offers classes and workshops to the public and specializes in classical drawing and painting techniques. Just off Broadway, exciting works can be expected from the Artists’ Workshop at the Grace-Westminster Church and theTextile Arts Group (TAG), a collective of fibre artists, is located in the Church’s basement. Closer to the city core, Studio 5 can be found on the fifth floor of the Charter House building and features the work of painters, printmakers and a fabric artist. Finally, Lauriston Street Studios is a collective of artists who paint, sculpt and create glass art in the beautiful City Park area.

This is going to be THE weekend in Saskatoon for art lovers and city explorers! Take the studio tour at your own pace to discover some of Saskatoon’s finest artists, watch them at work in their spaces, talk to them about their art-making processes and experience a wide variety of demonstrations.

For more information reach us at Facebook:www.facebook.com/ArtTrekSaskatoon

Also, follow us on Twitter at: https://twitter.com/ArtTrekYXE

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Posted by: L | May 1, 2014

May Day Musings

After all the years I have lived here on the prairies, one would think that I would learn that spring does not arrive until the beginning of May. I just looked back, and yes, every end of April, beginning of May, I say ‘spring is late this year again’. Well, not really. Interesting how ingrained this thought is.

I grew up on the west coast, and of course spring comes weeks earlier, and by this time of the year, everything is in full flower. Whereas here, there a tiny little hints of growth.

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It is just another indication, that I have come to understand over the past year or so, of how much our growing-up years influence us, in so many subtle and not-so-subtle ways. There is so much one can be unaware of, or vaguely aware. Becoming aware has been a slow process. There has been a lot to learn and that will be an ongoing process. There has been a lot to face, to contemplate, to find out over the winter. With the coming of spring, I am hoping that all metaphorical hibernation that has gone on over the winter will bring forward new growth in me.

Some of the things I have been thinking about have been along the lines of discovering ideas in psychology, behavioural research, philosophy and such. Quite a lot has involved taking as objective a look as possible at myself, not always a pleasant undertaking. However, positive knowledge has come out of it and now I need to take that knowledge and begin to apply it.

For quite a while I wondered if it was too late to learn new ways of thinking. Then I reminded myself that I am always trying to learn new things. This was reinforced when I read an interesting article I saw about mindset, which was describing a new book on the subject by Carol Dweck. The article talks how being of one of two mindsets – fixed or growth – affects a lot about our lives. The article is worth a read, has implications for any age, for personal understanding and for parenting and educating young children as well. A summary statement is intriguing: The key difference between the two mindsets — for those with a growth one, “personal success is when you work your hardest to become your best,” whereas for those with a fixed one, “success is about establishing their superiority, pure and simple. Being that somebody who is worthier than the nobodies.”

Another piece I found interesting came about from one of those lists that turn up on various sites. I think this one was on a Facebook feed. It was a Huffington Post item on ‘23 signs you are secretly an introvert.‘ I read it for fun because I think of myself as an introvert and of course I could identify with several of the points. One of them was more interesting that the usual though, and it was #16 – You have a constantly running inner dialogue. Well, doesn’t everyone? Apparently not. You mean not everyone has this non-stop discussion going on in their heads? That was a revelation. I started looking at several of the links in the article which lead to new-to-me information about introverts, the result of recent research. The old idea I had about being shy and retiring was really quite outdated, and there is some very interesting new information that actually gave me a major ‘aha’. This podcast with another researcher, Marti Olsen Laney, was particularly enlightening.

I didn’t know that one of the main differentiating features between introverts and extraverts was how each type dealt with their energy, introverts recharging by taking quiet time and extraverts by being around others. Introverts expend energy with everything they do and extraverts gain energy from what they are out doing in the world. Nothing to do with shyness. Also that introverts and extraverts use different brain chemicals to process their thoughts and actually have different thought patterns. If you think you might be an introvert, this is worth listening to. So many things that have been said to me about the way I am, as if there is something wrong with the way I think and how I feel and need, are actually based in brain chemistry (acetylcholine for introverts vs dopamine for extraverts). Examples: having to think before talking, writing more easily than talking, having to have quiet alone time, not being able to engage in much conversation after 10 pm, reading too much, being odd for not wanting the radio or tv going all the time, being odd for being able to tune out background noise. Did you know that introverts actually have a lot of advantages, like aging better? This talk was the ‘aha’. There isn’t anything wrong, it is just the way I am wired. Such a simple explanation that simply opened my eyes to me. It took a huge weight off.

Another spin off is the whole noisy brain thing. This has lead to looking into ways to quieten it down, and this has lead to mindfulness (and yoga, which I have been doing and enjoy that quieter time). This is an area I am really not very knowledgeable about, but plan to do a lot more learning. Another interesting article is about how we suffer (this also has to do with Buddhist thought, another area I am not well versed in and intend to explore more as it goes with mindfulness). Two items are ‘Neuroscience of suffering – and its end‘, about how someone was able to get his brain to shut up,  and ‘Mindfulness: more than a fad, less than a revolution‘, about using mindfulness in the UK Government, among other things. I think this will be my spring project. Learning to turn down/off the useless/pointless/negative loops is something I really look forward to.

One other piece that has been very useful to me is a video, by Dr Gabor Mate, about attachment, when one is a child, and how poor attachment has long term effects in life. This had a great deal of resonance for me, having grown up in a family with parents who had mental illness. There is so much good information out there now. Also, there are good people who can be of help too, when you can’t do it by yourself. It is worthwhile, in the end, facing the hard parts. There are still more I have to work through; I am optimistic that I will be able to do it. It is important that I do.

 

 

 

 

 

Posted by: L | April 19, 2014

Frame shift

It began as I was walking out of the Co-op grocery store not long ago. Almost 40 years ago, I arrived in this small prairie city. I mostly went to the Safeway that was quite nearby, and would from time to time go to the Co-0p as well. The Co-op always seemed to have mostly ‘older folks’ there and had the classic coffee row restaurant in it. It always seems like a typical prairie institution. Over the years, it was upgraded and I began to go a bit more frequently, but the Safeway was always the ‘go-to’ place of choice. A couple of weeks ago, the Safeway closed its doors for good, bought out by another chain. The small neighbourhood store didn’t fit their needs. So the Co-op is now the main place to go as I am not that enamoured of Superstore or Sobeys.

One recent Saturday, I was walking out to the parking lot after shopping and it suddenly struck me. I was now one of the ‘older folks’ going to the Coop, that I had remarked on when I first arrived here. Whoa! That was how I would be seen by the few younger people who might be shopping there, just like I did 40 years ago.

A few days ago, I was at a dinner at the University, accompanying my partner. At one point I was introduced to a young couple who worked at the Vet College and who had recently moved here. Again, one of those moments. That was me 40 years ago; I had my first job here in Vet Microbiology. I can remember talking to senior faculty then, never thinking that one day I would be the senior talking to the newcomers.

Funny how suddenly one’s frame of reference can change from such an innocuous moment. I don’t see it as a negative thing at all, just a different perspective.

Today, I experienced another shift. I saw a link on Facebook to a Huffington Post item on introversion. I have always thought of myself as being something of an introvert, based on what we generally thought of it, someone shy, bookish etc. So reading the information was another revelation. I followed up a couple of the links in the article and that lead me to listen to a talk by Dr Marti Olsen Laney. It was very interesting to hear that introversion is more currently seen as not shyness at all, but is a temperament based on how one gets and uses energy. And also that an introvert’s brain works differently, using acetylcholine, versus the dopamine an extravert uses. Introverts need to recharge by spending time alone, among other things, and have a number of other characteristics that I could really relate to, such as needing to think before speaking in particular situations. So that was another frame shift. Suddenly a lot of things that I need/like were actually based on something quite fundamental. Now I know why I simply can’t start an in-depth conversation after 10 pm, for instance. I wish I had known some of this a long time ago, but the research into all this is fairly new. I am glad to know it now, that it is not ‘wrong’ or ‘abnormal’, simply the way my brain works. It is quite reassuring.

 

 

Posted by: L | November 29, 2013

Ian Rankin and me

Well, it isn’t really quite like that, but I did have my own Ian Rankin moment this week. When the new McNally Robinson Book Store catalogue came out, I browsed through as usual, and there it was! Ian Rankin was coming to talk at the book store on Tuesday, November 26. Lots of exclamation points!!! Ian Rankin is my favourite author, one whom I have been reading for at least 20 years, and whose books I have been collecting for quite a while now. I can’t even remember how I came across him. I love mystery/detective fiction and got into reading the British writers like Colin Dexter (Inspector Morse) and Dorothy Sayers (Lord Peter Wimsey), plus many others. So haunting that part of the library I saw one of Ian Rankin’s books and that had me hooked.

Initially I got them at the library, but liked them so much that I wanted to have my own copies, and then wanted the earlier books too. The first Inspector Rebus novel was Knots and Crosses (1987). I think I saw either his first or second Rebus novel and have been an avid (not quite rabid) reader and collector since. I have a number of special pieces as well as first editions and autographed copies.

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So, seeing that he was actually coming to our city, well, not to be missed for sure. The event was free, you just had to be there to get a seat. My friend and I decided we’d get there just before 6 pm, then wait around until 7:30 when it would start. When we got there, we were at the start of the line, and we got to go and sit in the restaurant and wait. Very nice. Then just a few minutes before the talk was to start, they put more chairs up front, so off we went. We were about 10 ft away, great view. Meanwhile, something close to 200 people had been coming in to the store and lining up. Only a few actually made it into the restaurant, so our planning really paid off.

Just before time, this tall man walked in with a couple of other people and sat almost in front of us, and there he was. I felt like a school kid. So much fun. After an introduction by Saskatchewan writer Gail Bowen, Ian Rankin began his talk. It was very interesting and entertaining to say the least. He is an engaging and humorous speaker and had lots of stories to tell, about his writing and his characters.

He talked about how he came to write this series, coming as a result of his interest in Scottish writers that he studied at university. He particularly was interested in Robert Louis Stevenson and the Jekyll and Hyde concept. He talked about Stevenson’s own upbringing and interests which likely led to those stories, including a link, via a cupboard, to Deacon Brodie. All wonderfully gothic. His own love of stories and words lead him to writing. His first book, The Flood, was published by a student press. It was followed the next year by Knots and Crosses in 1987, the first Rebus. As Ian noted, he loves words and also said that this first book was really a student piece (he was a postgrad at this time). He says there are some sentences that even he doesn’t understand, but thought they sounded good. Knots and Crosses (a game), Rebus (a game), and characters such as Holmes (nod to Sherlock) are an indication of the enjoyment he has in writing. One other thing that he does is for each new book, he auctions off a ‘spot’ in the novel – if you win the bid, you get written into the story – for charity.

He also talked about how his relates to his characters, how he really likes Rebus but is sure Rebus would find him boring. About how Sioban started as a minor character but grew through her own strength to become a major one. About how he started out writing the Rebus stories in real time, and Rebus as a 41 year-old Detective Sergeant, not realizing the implications. One of his readers, an Edinburgh policeman, got in touch one day, asking what he intended to do with Rebus next year when he turned 60. It turned out that at the time, police officers were required to retire at 60, unbeknownst to the writer. Hence the retirement of Rebus. Then Ian found out about the cold case squad which was just being set up, so he was able to bring him back later. On the this BBC website, it is interesting because it shows the ‘Bible John’ case, which figures into the Rebus stories. Recently, the retirement requirement was removed and allowed Rebus’ application to rejoin the force, albeit right where he was when the stories began, as a DS. Also, when he started his first story, he knew nothing about policing etc, so wrote a letter to the Chief Superintendent outlining what he was doing. He immediately got an interview with two police, who suggested he undergo an interview like a suspect. It turned out that there was a real case, very much like he was writing about, and they considered him as a suspect for a period of time, thinking that he had come in to play games with them. So serendipity has played an real part in the stories as well.

There was another interesting twist, in that there is really a John Rebus in Edinburgh, who got in touch with Ian after the stories gained popularity. Ian had just made up the name, because of the puzzle connection. Turns out that the real Rebus was in the local phone book, lived on Rankin Avenue and had a Polish ancestry. If you know the stories, that is the connection to the Polish community.

Ian talked about how he collects snippets of newspapers, ideas, words etc and puts them into a file, and when it is time to write, he pulls it all out, spreads it around and gets his ideas for the next story. I found this interesting as it was again like putting out puzzle pieces and solving them. Someone asked if he always knew how the book would end when he started to write. Exactly the opposite, it turns out. He has no idea how the story will end, lets the story and characters determine the outcome. And what was the hardest part? Page 65. Why page 65? Well, in the first part of the story, the criminal event happens, all the procedural things get underway, and the events and characters are set up, and by that time it is page 65. Then the real story has to begin.

He had a funny story about the previous Rebus novel, Standing in Another Man’s Grave. He said that although he loves music, he has a bad ear for lyrics and often falls prey to the mondegreen. He had been listening to a song by a Scottish musician, Jackie Leven (with whom he did a musical collaboration) and thought the line was “standing in another man’s grave”. The actual live was “standing in another man’s rain”. Also, his publisher didn’t like the title, saying it was too long. Ian came back that is was no longer than ‘Girl with a Dragon Tattoo’, which wasn’t the best rejoinder, because his publisher had turned down GWDT. In the end, the title went as first written.

Ian has a lot of other interests too, like music, and has done all kinds of collaborative projects with people. Check out his website for an overview.

So here is a photo of the talk. He went on for over an hour and it was not only entertaining but interesting to hear about the writer’s life. He said that writers are children who still play with their invisible friends.

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After the presentation, he signed copies of his newest book, Saints of the Shadow Bible. I had ordered a copy from the UK (I like to get the hardback version from the UK) before I even knew Ian was coming here, and luckily it arrived a few days beforehand, so I was able to get it signed.

When it was my turn, I said to Ian, “I haven’t lined up for anything like this since the Beatles in 1964”. He said, “You saw the Beatles live? Where? I never got to see them and always wanted to”. When he signed my copy, under the signature, he started to draw a knots and crosses. I said, “A knots and crosses – thank you  so much!” and he said, “Would you like a hangman too?”, and started to draw one. So I got an extra special, to me, autograph.

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And then, to top it off, he saw my camera and said, here let’s take a photo!!

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So, a thoroughly enjoyable time with my favourite writer, who gave me my favourite Ian Rankin moment. Thank you Mr Rankin!

 

Posted by: L | November 9, 2013

My uncle’s easel

Not too long ago, I received a note from one of my cousins. My aunt has sold her house, and was moving to her new place. She has asked my cousin to pass on to me, that if I would like it, I could have my uncle’s easel. Needless to say, I was really touched by this. Of course I said yes, then spent some time on the phone arranging to have it picked up, packed up, and shipped from the coast to the prairies. It arrived and it is now in my little studio. Here it is – it fits! It spent many years looking out a window that had a view of Vancouver. It will be a big adjustment to having a much smaller view, and of months of snow.

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My uncle was George Bates, a well-known painter in Vancouver. I wrote about him here when he died, almost exactly four years ago. George was really instrumental in encouraging me to begin painting, so it is so lovely to have his easel.

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This is a close up of the crank that winds the shelf up and down to adjust for standing, sitting, and canvas size. I love all the paint all over it and the shelf. It is such a tangible connection to all the years George painted.

My cousin’s son has put a large number of George’s paintings. I love looking through them as it reminds me of when I would visit and we would talk about his paintings that he was working on. I am looking forward to painting on it this winter. It is so nice to have a proper easel, particularly for working on larger pieces. My small field easel was pretty precarious for such work. Thank you to my aunt and cousins for giving this to me.

 

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